Weddings We Love: Jacque + Ethan

Our Weddings We Love Series is all about capturing beautiful moments between couples that we adore. In this post, you get to meet Jacque and Ethan. We met Jacque through work at MSU - and we are so happy we did! J + E are the most kind, giving, gracious and caring people we have ever met and their wedding was an true reflection of that. We loved Jacque's attention to detail and the feeling that this wedding was a reflection of their relationship with each other. Enjoy!


First things first, tell us a little bit about your Mr. (or Mrs.)!
Ethan and I met in the fall of 2008 at Michigan State University in Case Hall.  We have been through many adventures together during our 8 years together. We have both grown so much during our relationship and have experienced many of life’s success and challenges. Ethan is a kind and gentle spirit that brings joy to everyone he meets. I remember one thing that drew me to Ethan is his love for his family and how important family is to him.  I appreciate that he always pushes me to pursue my dreams as well as striving to reach his own goals.

How did the "big moment" happen? What's the first thing that popped into your head after he popped the question?
Our big moment happened on May 11th, 2013.  Ethan and I were currently living on the east side of the state with our parents. I was in graduate school and he was working before starting medical school. He planned a trip up to Michigan State University to “make a payment on his new apartment”. He asked if I wanted to join for a day trip and go out to lunch in downtown East Lansing. I quickly jumped at the chance to visit our beloved alma mater and have a day alone with E. We parked the car and enjoyed MSU’s beautiful campus. After about a half an hour we ended up at Beaumont Tower a well-known spot on campus (also a place we walked many times throughout undergrad). I walked up to the base of the tower to read a plague and when I turn around to talk to Ethan, I noticed he had gotten down on one knee. I remember being in shock and asking him “to go slowly” because I wanted to remember every bit. His speech was pretty amazing and I said “YES” and jumped into his arms before he could completely opened the ring box. 

The first thing that popped into my head after he popped the question was- I get to marry my best friend!!!

Tell us a little bit about your wedding style. 
Ethan and I wanted our wedding to be a reflection of our love for each other and our family. We wanted a classy, timeless, intimate event that was elegant but also a lot of fun. We also wanted our guests to feel at home at our wedding. So we created bathroom kits for our guests in case they needed some flip flops or a breath mint. We also made “kid kits”, so our guests that were 12 and under had fun things to do through the night. Finally, Ethan and I were intentional about planning special moments together throughout the day. We exchanged gifts without seeing each other alone before our vows, we had a sweet heart table so we could enjoy our first meal together as husband and wife and we also dragged Sparty into the photo booth for some fun pictures! It made the day that much more special to have these few special moments together.

What was the most exciting part of the wedding planning process (save the wedding itself!)?
I think the most exciting part of the wedding planning process was the opportunity to spend time and make memories with family and friends. I remember one night my mother pulled out her wedding dress- I put it on and we drank wine and laughed as I tried on her veil and laughed so hard we cried when I couldn’t fit into her dress.  I was so fortunate that my mother and mother-in-law were both with me when I found “the dress” one evening in Chicago. This moment was so special and I will remember it forever! I have a lot of family that live out-of-state but so many of them found ways to be involved across the miles. Whether it was helping me gather pictures of my great-grand parents or decorating for the rehearsal dinner, our wedding planning process allowed me to have cherished memories with my fiancé, family and friends.

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Describe your wedding in one word.
Classic

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What was the most challenging part of the wedding planning process?
One of our unique challenges during our wedding planning process was that Ethan was in his first year of medical school and I was finishing my Masters degree. So often times we have to plan in small pieces or divide and conquer but we were intentional about making all the big decisions together. When we started the planning process we both picked 3 non-negotiables each and agreed to uphold the other’s wishes. It was important to us that we both had a say in the “big day”.

If you could change anything about your wedding or the planning process, what would it be?
This is hard because it is something small but I would have hired an assistant photographer. I absolutely loved our photographer, Natalie Probst and would highly recommend her to anyone. I just wish we had a few more moments captured. It is impossible to ask a photographer to be in two places at once, so I wish we would have just paid a little more so Natalie could have brought an assistant with her.

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Finish this sentence - In 25 years, the thing I'll remember most about my wedding day is...
All the people that came to celebrate with us! Ethan and I were so fortunate to have so many loved ones at our wedding. Parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, college roommates and old teammates came from across the country to celebrate with us. I think the people who attend your wedding truly make your wedding the amazing day that it is. We will forever treasure looking at photos and our wedding video to remember our special day and the people who helped us start this new chapter of our life.  

Jacque + Ethan's Vendors
Photography: Natalie Probst
Ceremony & Reception Venue: The Inn at St. John's