Beware the Comparison Trap
Happy Monday, Friends!
Is it bad that we're already counting down the days to this weekend? Unlike any other April weekend we've had in the Mitten State, it's actually supposed to be nice and we are CELEBRATING! Today, I want to chat with you about one of our biggest nemeses in the wedding planning world: comparison.
It's no secret that the ALD girls love Lara Casey. The Powersheets are one of our favorite tools - but more importantly, we love Lara's message about content:
Comparison isn't just the thief of joy, it's the thief of everything.
Isn't that just the truth friends? When was the last time that you did something that truly excited you, only to turn around and see something that a friend, sibling, acquaintance did and then convince yourself that theirs was better? Just like that - the joy you created is gone.
This is the world that's been created in the wedding industry. As a new bride, you pick up wedding magazine after wedding magazine, scroll the pages of Style Me Pretty, Pin to your hearts content and spend hours double tapping every #smpringselfie you can spot on Instagram.
Now, don't get us wrong! We love Pinterest. There's no better place to find out how to make a salad in a mason jar that won't wilt by lunchtime or how to get red wine out of basically anything (#thestruggle). We love Instagram and Martha Stewart and Style Me Pretty is essentially my homepage, but you can't tell me in ernest that most of the time you walk away from those sites feeling a little defeated. How can you possibly compare to the size 2 woman, with the five carat solitaire and a wedding budget that's larger than the cost of your parent's house? How can your wedding possibly be as beautiful?
Your wedding is supposed to be one of the happiest and most joyful moments of your life. Think about it! You're starting a whole life together with this person who understands every little thing that makes you you. What is better than that? Not a thing.
So now I'm going to say something that I maybe shouldn't say as a wedding planner.
No amount of money, no amount of peonies or champagne or speciality linens, no amount of beautiful dresses and uplighting, will change the love that you and your new life partner will have, nor does it change the way that you can express that love to each other.
Emma and I started A Lovely Day to help you tell your unique love story, and we can tell that anyway that you want - whether you have $5,000 or $500,000. But our message here, wonderful friends, is to beware that Comparison trap. Beware comparing the love that you have for your fiancé and the joy you have in starting your married lives to the grandeur of those beautiful Pins you have saved on your wedding board and Instagram accounts you've been following. Instead, focus on cultivating a love that matters and a love that is deep.
That's more beautiful than any floral arch we've ever seen.