Four Wedding Resolutions We're Making This Year
There's something so exciting and refreshing about the start of a brand new year. Pulling out that new planner, making a list of goals and resolutions, and - for many of you - celebrating the beginning of your wedding year! Which also means it's time to get serious about planning your big day.
As you're pulling out your trusted wedding binder, firing up excel and getting ready to dig into that Pinterest board, we're sure you'll start seeing magazine articles and blog posts trying to tell you what's "in" and what's "out" for 2018 wedding trends. If there's one thing that the girls of A Lovely Day just can't get behind, it's the idea of trendiness. We're here to tell you that one of the most important aspects of planning your wedding is making aesthetic decisions that are true to who you are - even if a wedding blog tells you that it's so 2017. So, today, instead of trying to tell you what we think is hot in the wedding world, we're talking to you about our Wedding Resolutions for 2018. No trends, no in vs out, just the fundamentals that we believe every wedding should have, no matter what the wedding blogosphere says.
You know the feeling when you walk into someone's home and it just feels like them? This, sweet friends, is how every wedding should feel.
Is there a color you love or can be found throughout your home? Consider incorporating it into your overall color palette. Do you absolutely adore your pet (um, duh!)? Consider naming your signature cocktail after them or adding them to your wedding crest. If there's a special place that you and your fiancé have traveled to or a city that you love, then choose cuisine from that region for your cocktail hour or late night snack.
Infusing the defining details of your life and relationship into your wedding design will leave your guests feeling more connected to you after the party is over.
Bonus: Sentimental pieces from your wedding will transition into your home beautifully, which lets your wedding live on long after the day is over.
A Guest List with Purpose
The guest list. A daunting task, right? All the sudden, you're factoring a million logistical questions in order to decide if you can fit one more person into your already tight reception space.
You've probably heard a lot about intimate weddings lately - small, almost-elopement style weddings that are really having a moment in popular wedding culture. Don't get us wrong, we love a small wedding, but for some couples, a 30 person guest list just isn't possible! So we're swapping the word "intimate" for "purposeful". Our resolution here is simple: create a guest list with purpose.
We'd contend that with this logic, the guest list should be one of the easier tasks of your planning process. Here are the few questions you can ask yourself to see if you're heading in the right direction:
Does this guest know my fiancé and me? No really, could they pick either of us out of a crowd?
Has this guest been a supporter of our love story? Have they cheered us on to become the best versions of ourselves?
Can we imagine celebrating this day without this guest by our side?
Are we inviting this person out of obligation or love?
Use these questions to help establish parameters for your guest list that will ultimately leave you feeling more connected to the guests who are there to celebrate with you. Not every couple can have a small wedding, but we do believe that every couple can have an intimate wedding - whether you have 20 guests or 200.
Saying Goodbye to Perfection
We're going to come at you with a hard-and-fast statement, friends: your wedding will not be perfect, but it can be perfect for you.
Not to get all Webster on you, but the word perfect has two separate definitions:
having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.
We believe in approaching wedding days with the idea that perfection, in the first sense, does not exist. Inevitably, something will go wrong; maybe it's the weather, a beverage that spills all over the dance floor or maybe your DJ will go a little too crazy with the fog machine and cause the fire alarms to go off (yeah, that happened once!). But we believe wholeheartedly that perfection, in the second sense, is attainable. You can walk away at the end of the day, filled with a warm glow and knowing that you've just had the most complete day of your life.
Acknowledge and accept that your wedding is another day in your big-picture-love story; life isn't perfect, so what's the fun in having a wedding that is? We're not saying that you should plan for unmitigated disaster (we're here to help make sure that doesn't happen!) but by resolving to roll with the punches and going into your wedding planning with the full belief that the process will not be without flaws provides immeasurable relief.
Letting Go of Guilt
You are not going to make everyone happy.
There, we said it.
In an ideal world, your friends and family would wrap around you during your wedding planning process and provide you with the world's best love and support imaginable. And while some of your friends and family will do just that, other's (and we all have that one other) just won't.
For whatever reason, some people find it impossible to celebrate the happiness and joy of others.
So our final resolution for you is to let go of the guilt that you can't please everyone. Whether it's a bridesmaid who doesn't like the earrings you selected, or the bachelorette party location, or your Aunt Millie who doesn't understand that certain things have changed since the 1970s, it's important to let go of the guilt you may feel that everyone isn't 100% thrilled with the choices you and your fiancé have made.
One important caveat: this resolution doesn't mean that you should make decisions without consideration. Planning a four day, three night getaway to Aspen for your bachelorette weekend may not resonate well if most of your girls have a tighter budget. Be considerate of your loved ones throughout the planning process, and know that the decisions you and your fiancé make are the right ones for your celebration.
We hope these resolutions allow you to head into your wedding year with confidence and enthusaism to plan your wedding celebration. Know we'll be cheering you on from here!